October 11, 2019   army moms , being deployed , deployed life , life in the army , servicemember pain , women in the service

Love magnifies on the other side of the world.

Everything is on the line when your Servicemember deploys overseas.   Since they may not come home.   Unhurt and without being traumat...

Everything is on the line when your Servicemember deploys overseas.  Since they may not come home.  Unhurt and without being traumatized is the hope.  When the reunion of family happens in just a guess on a unit’s schedule.

Months are great big gulps of lifetime when you are little.  Talking on the phone for real is strange and super important since Daddy left to go get the bad guy.  Where is far, far away?  Grandma says your Mom is a hero.  They call her job a logistician, she says she drives a big truck.

Spouses see Humvees exploding on the news from roadside bombs, reporters call them improvised explosive devices and they enter into dreams.  Wives think their husbands travel on the same roads, which they may.  More likely your loved ones are asleep, off duty/ bored to tears.

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When things are lousy at home doing your job downrange gets a lot harder.  Kids don’t want to talk on the phone or listen to anyone; act out and start cussing at teachers and getting into fights.  Maybe Jodie’s spouse back on the block spends the directly deposited pay really fast.  Or maybe you can go on vacation with your family separation allowance and combat pay.  If you get home.

Marriages with fidelity problems get worse.  Not making love for a year, when the two of you have only been together a short while, puts your panties in a twist.  Kisses and leg rubs on the carousel make your daydreams.  Some spouses accuse, others support with care packages.

Some Soldiers have no one to write to, receive nothing at mail call.  Loneliness magnifies when you are on the other side of the world.  There’s too much time to think.  No feasible way home but to wait.  A photograph makes you cry for no reason.